Connecting with People: By Dr. John C. Maxwell
As a train's source of
energy and direction, the locomotive plays a vital role. However, unless a
locomotive connects to other cars on the track, it is relatively useless. A
train's value comes from its ability to transport massive amounts of cargo, and
doing so requires the locomotive to link up with dozens of freight cars.
Traveling by itself, a locomotive would arrive at its destination empty-handed.
In that case, its journey would be nothing more than a waste of fuel.
Leaders are like
locomotives in that they're blessed with drive, energy, and vision. However,
until leaders learn the art of connection, their influence remains minimal. In
isolation, their talents accomplish little, and their efforts are squandered.
Let's look at practical
ways whereby leaders can make meaningful connections with others.
8 Steps for Connecting with People
#1 Don't Take People for Granted
Weak leaders get so
caught up in the vision of where they're going that they
forget whom they're trying to lead.
Instead, leaders would be wise realize that connecting to people and developing
them are the surest ways to gain influence. Results happen through
relationships.
#2 Possess a Difference-Maker Mindset
A hesitant and
indecisive leader doesn't enliven the hearts or imaginations of people. On the
contrary, leaders who influence and inspire have a difference-maker mindset.
They connect with others by passing along an infectious confidence in their ability
to succeed.
#3 Initiate Movement Toward People
Freight cars sitting on
the railroad tracks won't go anywhere by themselves. They will rust and collect
dust unless a locomotive makes contact and connects to them. Similarly, most
people stay parked due to self-doubt, fear, or absence of vision. It takes the
connection of a leader to tap into their potential and rouse them to action.
#4 Search for Common Ground
Anytime you want to
connect with a person, the starting point should be shared interests. If you're
attentive to the hobbies, histories, and habits of those you lead, then you
will find ample areas of common ground. Launch out from these areas of
agreement to build rapport.
#5 Recognize and Respect Differences
We are capable of
finding common ground with others, but at the same time we need to acknowledge
that we're all different. The greatest influencers realize that differences
ought to complement rather than clash. When you demonstrate regard for diverse
personalities and meet people on their terms, they will appreciate your
sensitivity and connect with the understanding you've shown.
#6 Learn the Key to Others' Lives
People have core
motivations that vary drastically, and a leader has to discern them to forge a
connection with others. Generally, the key can be unearthed by examining what a
person has already done in life and by discovering what he or she aspires to do
in the future. Once you've found the key, do not exploit it. Turn the key only
when you have the person's permission, and always use it for his or her benefit
- not your own.
#7 Communicate from the Heart
Nothing repels people
like a phony leader. Be authentic when you speak, and align your actions and
words. People respond to passion, and they will latch onto a vision when it's
communicated directly from the heart.
#8 Share Common Experiences
Shared experiences
cement a relationship. For this reason, it's wise to be intentional about
eating out with teammates, inviting them to join you on an errand, or taking in
a play or ballgame together. The more time you invest in those you lead, the
greater the connection you will forge with them.